Why we should stop asking why

I ran across this quote in Rupi Kaur’s lovely book of poems, Milk and Honey.

It speaks so much truth in such a small number of words.

As a social scientist trained to explain human behavior, this has been one of the hardest lessons to learn -there comes a point when continuing to investigate why something did or did not happen no longer gets us to where we want to be.

And I see it with clients all the times.

On their obsessive quest to understand the unknowable, they fail to live rich and meaningful lives where they are. And it significantly impedes their effectiveness too.

The need-to-know becomes an anchor that drags us down.

Try this. The next time you face a difficult circumstance or something stands in your way of moving forward in life, instead of asking “why,” ask yourself, “Now what?”

The past is information (let’s learn from it), it’s not determination.  What’s next for you on your journey?

Go get it!